2) The biggest lie employees tell employers

But it's not just employers who lie. Prospective employees do, too.
"They know that employers want loyalty," Hoffman says. "They know they want to hear, 'Oh, I plan on working here for the rest of my career.' But most employees recognize that career progression probably requires eventually moving to another company. But that never comes up."
This is core to Hoffman's idea that both employers and employees should look at a particular job less as a lifetime contract and more as a "tour of duty" — a limited-time engagement meant to achieve specific ends on both sides. But until employers stop pretending employees are family and employees stop pretending their aim is a job they'll never leave, neither side can have that conversation.